USERS Ain’t HOT in my Book!

We live in a world where using people is more than a trend. For many people its a lifestyle, but to me its just as bad as doing drugs.

The world revolves around no one, we know this. Many people want to be successful, I think we can all agree on that, but I think the question is what is the method of achieving success? What is the strategy for achieving success? What is the ulterior motives and whom are you willing to use to achieve that success?

I can honestly say that using someone to get to where I’m going is not my forte’. The reason being is because, I have something valuable to bring to the table. I have something that I can pitch in to pay my own dues. I do the things that I know I can do on my own and that I have worked so hard to achieve.

I don’t want people to feel that I’m using them for my own gain. I haven’t had one person feel that way about me. That’s not the type person I am. Of course, I can’t say the same about how other people are with me. It sucks that its like that, but unfortunately that’s the way it is.

Everybody is trying to get ahead, but have no honor about the approach. There is no loyalty, there is no integrity. Its like its all about self and I’ve seen it many of times. Now not everyone is like that. There are some good people out here who do understand that it is about supporting each other and uplifting each other, helping one another to reach to the next plateau of our lives and careers.

But I think the main thing with users is that history repeats itself. There are so many people on top that use and squeeze out of those people who aren’t there yet or at their status, that when those people finally get over the hump, instead of learning from what happened to them, they replicate what was done to them to those that were in the same position they were in, when trying to get there.

The using just keeps going. And its a sucky feeling. Why is it that people want to take advantage!!??? Its similar to the question, what do men with power want more of? The answer is power. Some will do anything to get it. Even if it means using someone as a foot stool or using someone to make you look good, like you made them.

I’m saying this loud and clear, “GOD MADE ME WHO I AM!” It is GOD, who has Blessed me with these gifts. It is GOD, who allows me to breath and wake up in the morning. God and His son, Jesus have every right to use me. Anyone beneath them, which is everyone have no right whatsoever to use me. No one on this earth has provided me with the things that God has provided me with and that’s fact in its purest form.

Users ain’t hot in my book at all. I’m not a foot stool, a crutch, a puppet, a gimmick, a look or anything along those lines. I am a business chick!

-LeXXah Drew It-

I’m On My Team

It is only the strong survive, right?

If I’m not on my own team, then who is? I have dreams and goals just like the next person.

I’m trying to make it. I’m trying to get to where I’m going. I’m trying to reach my destination. I’m trying to achieve success, just like you.

Just like you’re on your team, I’m on my team. Yes, we may be direct competitors in our desires and what we crave for in our hearts, but their can still be a mutual respect.

This thing right here has nothing to do with ego or selfishness. I mean isn’t it fair to say that an individual has to make some type of living. An individual has to have some type of purpose in life, a sense of accomplishment. Why else would we live? Success lies at the end of the tunnel with everybody. The success objectives is the only thing that differentiates us. We are individual teams with individual team goals.

Whether the competition is direct or indirect we can agree that an individual team is in full support of what he or she does.

Okay, so we compete over attention, money, job security, business, whose the best, the big stage, even over people. Competition will always be stiff, but I have my competitive edge. I know what my niche is. I know who my target market is. I know what route and way I want to go to get it.

It is to each’s own. We may be on separate teams, but we can still respect each others hustle and grind. I’ve made up in my mind that I’m going to respect what you do, but will you do the same towards me? I’m confident with my plight and journey, my skills and my grind. There is no need for me to disrespect or hate on someone else’s team. You’re on your team and I’m on my team.

I’m not trying to kill yo flow. I don’t desire to. I channel my energies on what I’m trying to accomplish in life. Causing chaos on your squad or knocking you off course provides me with no satisfaction. I don’t have time for it.

Even in joint ventures and/or particular projects. Those are short-term goals where 2 individuals bring there skills together for a shared goal. It is a bind, an agreement, but with the notion that each individual team gets something out of it.

It amazes me to see so many people who are on their own team think that nobody else is on their own team, that they are the only team on the planet that is trying to do something. And they don’t care what you are trying to accomplish. What you’re doing doesn’t support their cause or goals. So they disrespect you, downplay what you do, ignore you or you get that special shady-ness treatment. Gotta love the shady-ness!!!!!

So, I’m putting my feelings out there. And making it known…

I’m on my team. I’m happy for you on what you’re doing. If I’m vibing, I’ll support, but don’t get it twisted. I’m trying to do something GREAT in my life too. I’m trying to make something BIG happen so that my kids can have opportunities that I didn’t have, too. I want doors to open up for me, just like you want doors to open up for you.

I want support for what I do, just like you do. With that said, I have much respect for those that are making something out of themselves. Don’t come to me the wrong way though. Don’t downplay or play that power struck game with me. I’m not going to do that to you. So I don’t expect it to be done to me.

I’m on my team too. I’m always on my team. Being on my team lets me know that at least one person on this planet cares about what I do and where I’m trying to go! I love who I am and I love what I do.

-LeXXah Drew It-

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They Watch from a Distance………………

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LOL.

Yea, its complicated and frustrating and interesting.

I think it has more to do with your level, your bread and popularity according to who knows you. It has absolutely nothing to do with talent.

So, they wait and watch from a distance. They are never too close where if you don’t make it, they can say that they had nothing to do with you, but they are not too far where if you do make it, they were with you all along.

I know that game, do you?

At some point in time or another, one may go through this. It literally is a watching game. A spectator game.

It is, what can you do for me and if the answer is nothing or it doesn’t have FREE up in there somewhere, its just a keep on walking and don’t say nothing. It looks appealing to look though.

I think it is more about just waiting to see what happens, how your life plays out. People want to see what they can get out of you.

So, here you are, busting your butt to accomplish something larger than life and the distance watchers watching from afar. If the signs are promising and become true, they want in on what you’re doing. They want a piece of the pie.

They are not or were not apart of your struggle, but yet they want to be apart of your success. They say things like, “Remember ME when you get there.” “Don’t forget about ME when you get to the top.” “Don’t forget about the little people.”

They put their 2 cents in to try and secure a place with you right before you make it. And still, they watch from a distance. They don’t want to support or help the cause and/or dream, but they want to enjoy the fruits of someone else’s hard working labor.

And the crazy thing is, is that those who do this, would be in denial. No one wants to believe that this type of person being described would be them. They would not claim this description, even though they may shake their head in agreement while reading this.

It literally is funny how that works. I have seen it. Watchers won’t reveal themselves to you. They are too smooth for that. They ease drop and every 2 or 3 months they either call you or stop by to chat with you on FB or Twitter to see if you made it yet. But they don’t just flat out ask you that question. Its indirect.

If it has happened to you, you understand where I’m coming from and understand what I’m talking about. I’ve peeped that sorry game, but one thing I can definitely say about those who watch from a distance, is you learn about what is to come, you learn about who people really are, you learn about who is really on your side and who wants to see you succeed, you learn about how they see you and some see you as a foot stool.

Its nothing to be mad about. You can’t do anything about that, but you can be more aware of whats going on and pay attention to what people are saying and implying through casual conversation. You can be more observant to your surroundings and be street smart.

Watching from a distance is a safe zone for some people. They don’t want to be embarrassed or ashamed that they were seen with you or at one point in time, they were supporting you. They are concerned about whose watching them. They are afraid to be affiliated with an idea if it goes south.

I speak this from experience. I’m not just making this stuff up. I don’t write or speak just to hear myself talk. If I did, I wouldn’t like myself, but since I do like myself, I speak and write with purpose and reason. Somebody out there may not be aware of those who just watch.

There are watchers at all kinds of different levels, but you always have the traditional watchers, in which I described above. Those watchers never change. Stay on the look out, especially when you are a person who dreams BIG and that dream starts out as a concept that you believe in!

-LeXXah Drew It-

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